Fine. A four letter word with hundreds of meanings. The last time you said you were "fine" were you sad, mad, frustrated, happy, or just what you said, fine? Why does this one little word possess so much power and emotion and why can't it just always correspond to one feeling? Well think about it logically, the only one who controls the meaning and intent of their words is the person saying them. If their words are false or don't match up to their apparent mood, are you supposed to give them the benefit of the doubt or flat out disbelieve them? All of this throwing around of words mixed with random emotions can lead to a lot of jumbled up interpretations and a lot of awkward situations that can and should be avoided. To put it into simpler …show more content…
Not only to everyone else, but to ourselves as well. Though the truth can hurt, a lie hurts worse and people deserve more than that. When you're feeling a certain way, why not just say it how it is? People will most likely give you the benefit of the doubt, so if you say you are happy, but are actually sad inside, how are people supposed to know. Though it may seem scary to let others in on your life, telling them how you really feel will help you avoid a later situation. For example, if you tell a boy you are okay but he later finds out you were upset with him, that will just cause more frustration in a relationship than needs to be there. Telling the honest truth the first time can be an easy way to avoid miscommunication, and in turn help your relationships. Miscommunication is a nasty thing that can silently tear apart your relations with others. However, this can be avoided using three techniques that we have previously discussed. First, we can put our pride on a back burner and just let our feelings out. Next, we can evaluate our situation and emotions before saying things we don't mean, and lastly we can just be honest. If we put these ideas into practice, it could be amazing how open and more confident we can feel with each
Someone once stated,” Tell me the cold truth, but don’t paint me a pretty lie.” As we walk our journey of life, we come to understand that the truth is harsh and yields to no one;moreover, the lie’s hurt increases as it grows. Honesty is important in all situations because eventually the truth shows and people base how they connect you in their life by your honesty or lies.
It is actually very hard to be completely honest all the time and in every situation. But I believe that being honest can be very rewarding in the end because you are not deceiving others or yourself which is beneficial to you and society.
Chapter 5: Make It Safe: How to Make It Safe to Talk about Almost Anything When things go wrong in crucial conversations, we assume the content of our message is the problem, so we begin to water it down or avoid it altogether. But, as long as your intent is pure and you learn how to make it safe for others, you can talk to almost anyone about almost anything. The key is to make the other person feel safe. To do this, there are two things the person needs to know. First, they need to know that you care about their best interests and goals. This is called mutual purpose. Second, they need to know that you care about them. This is called mutual respect. When people believe both of these things, they relax and can absorb what you’re saying; they feel safe. The instant they don’t believe them (and it can happen instantaneously – even with those we have long and loving relationships with), safety breaks down and silence or violence follows. To restore safety in the face of silence or violence, you must restore mutual purpose and respect.
This paper will discuss the meanings that some words have for me that may differ from people of a different cultural group. This paper will also characterize what I think democratic, bigot, feminist, conservative and liberal mean by using each word in an illustrative sentence.
Sometimes, people tend to hide truth just to spare someone’s feelings and they think of it as small, good lies. But the point is that lies never bring anything good. No matter how small lies are, they might even hurt people’s feelings more than telling the truth right away.
To begin with, sometimes people can’t handle honesty. The article “It’s the Truth:Americans Conflicted About Lying” ‘Why get here traumatized?’says Smith,64, of pioneer,Calif,’I tried to protect her. It slowed down the anxiety. Later,I told her what really happened’”. Sometimes telling truth can permanently affect someone and make them traumatized. There are some cases where the consequences of honesty outweigh the effects of lying. Additionally ,the same article it states”You don't want your kids to eat too much, so you say all the cookies are gone. You don't feel like going out,so you tell your date something important came up”.
There are negative effects to always being honest. Telling someone the truth could cause more harm than good. Hiding the truth could keep someone safe. In To Kill A Mockingbird, Heck Tate lies about how Bob Ewell dies to protect Boo Radley. Heck and Atticus both know that telling everyone Boo killed Bob would bring him out into the center of attention which Boo cannot handle. Being
Lying the one form of communication that is the untruth expressed to be the truth. Immanuel Kant states that lying is morally wrong in all possible ways. His hatred for lying has made him “just assumed that anyone who lied would be operating with a maxim like this: tell a lie so as to gain some benefit.”(Landau,pp.171) This is true for a vast number of people, they will lie in order to gain a certain benefit from the lie rather than the truth.It is similar to if you play a game of truth or dare, some rather pick a dare because it would release them from having to tell the truth. However, those who do pick truth still have a chance to lie to cover up the absolute truth.People lie in order to cover who they truly are. Even if you lie to benefit someone or something else, it would not matter to Kant because he does not care for the consequences. If you lie but have a good intention it is not the same for Kant, he would argue that you still lied no matter the consequence that a lie is a lie. “ While lying, we accuse others for not being transparent. While being hypocrites ourselves, we expect others to be sincere.” (Dehghani,Ethics) We know how it feels to be lied to by a person, so in order to not have the feeling returned, we hope the person will be truthful. We rather be surrounded by truthful people constantly despite all the lies that some people tell. No
Remember, it is very easy to see other people's mistakes, but not as easy when taking a look at yourself, it is much harder to accept criticism, even from yourself- because no one wants to be wrong. This is where we need to get real about things. Communication is not about who is right or wrong, but instead about helping each other see things from each other's perspective, so that you can be on the page and avoid any misunderstanding that will cause unneeded arguments. Communication is not so complicated, once there is understanding in addition to understanding what the right way communicating is and what methods of communication works for you and your communication best. Effective communication cannot happen on its own or with the efforts of only one person.
I might feel bad about myself if people only me the truth. If the truth is not what I expect it to be then my feelings would get hurt and I would lose my confidence. I can handle the truth if it is told in a way that my feelings are not hurt. I am not sure if I am able to handle the actual and uncensored truth because it takes a lot of courage to do so.
Being truthful and honest is one of the hardest things to do for some people. They think keeping things to themselves is easier, and causes less drama. Others say it’s easier not to say because the truth does hurt. For instance, if you tell someone the truth, they could think you are lying and could get irritated with you. Another example, could be telling someone the
I don’t like people that will hide what they want to truly say because they are too scared or worried of what others will think. In chapter 7 of our textbook Dan West discusses relationships and states “Self-awareness in relationships can contribute to interpersonal communication competence…In my relationships with persons I have found that it does not help, in the long run, to act as though I were something that I am not” (p.134-135). Being open with people allows for a better relationship to form. Honesty is also important because it leads to people trusting you, no one wants to be friends with a compulsive liar! I sometimes enjoy just putting my feeling out in the open when I’m talking with someone I’m close too, because I know I will feel better talking about it out
When somebody asks me a question, I would almost immediately have an answer to it because I think before I speak and I am a very compulsive person. Today, I was asked to write about my favorite word or a word that interests me. I jumped onto my computer and began to type…30 minutes later, I was still on my header. Why was this so hard for me? What word should I use? What if I used a word that made people uncomfortable, like the word moist? What if I used a word that people used to often without meaning like the word love? Then, it dawned on me… What if I used the word, word?
In Bryce Courtenay’s The Power of One, the main character, Peekay the majority of his friends by means of a violent and unexpected death. “Death was violent and ugly like Grandpa Chook and Geel Piet, or even a macambre like Big Hettie. Death, as I had come to know it in Africa, had no gentle slipping awayness about it, no dignity.” Depending on your faith, death can bring about new life, or an end to everything. If you choose to believe the latter, as it can be assumed that Peekay did, these powerful things called loneliness birds hatch their stone eggs inside of you. “…laid stone eggs deep inside of you until you filled up with heaviness and despair. “
Communication and language are not always synonymous. Gesticulations and facial expression can convey certain messages that often make verbal expression unnecessary. Although I appreciate the endless possibilities that are associated with speaking, our primary means of communication, I have discovered that the human capacity for speech might not be as extremely innate as the linguist Noam Chomsky claimed. A few years ago, I had the privilege of encountering a thirty-five year-old woman named Joann at a summer camp for adults with multiple disabilities. Being extremely autistic, Joann was unable to close her mouth, let alone form distinguishable words. Instead of talking, her principal method of communication was to